Conflict is not only common, but it's normal, healthy and inevitable between couples. Learning how to resolve conflicts is key to improving your relationship. Reaching out to a counselor may be the solution when you are at a crossroads or when you have the same argument repeatedly. According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, around 98% of individuals found couples therapy helpful.
Counseling usually strengthens relationships. It's an exciting process. It is an opportunity to learn how to resolve conflicts peacefully. It can increase your awareness and insights into your partner's behavior and even your own. Counselors provide various types of couple therapy, as described below:
1. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
This type of therapy involves bringing behavioral changes. The goal is to identify the maladaptive pattern interfering with the relationship. Couples may learn new techniques to heal and secure their relationship. The role of the counselor is to guide the couple in adapting new techniques in their life.
2. The Gottman Method
The Gottman Method is one of the most popular couple therapies among counselors in NJ. This therapy can deepen the understanding between couples while decreasing conflict. The goal is to increase closeness, respect, and intimacy while improving empathy and understanding for each other.
3. Imago relationship therapy
Imago is another well-researched and effective couples therapy in Bergen County. Therapists may use childhood experiences to help explain adulthood behavior. Understanding how and why we engage the way we do with our partners can lead to a deeper connection, satisfaction, and mutual healing.
4. Solution-Focused Therapy
Solution-Focused Therapy shifts the couple's attention from problem to solution. This therapy is suitable for burn-out couples who need a different approach. Your counselor can help you attain a solution-oriented mindset rather than focusing on problems. The therapist collaboratively works with the couple to identify goals and their "best hopes" or envisioned solutions.
5. Reflective listening
Active listening is key to resolving any conflict. It improves healthy communication between couples. When one actively listens to the other, resolving conflicts becomes easier. The couple can improve their communication skills while maintaining respect and kindness.
Why choose Bergen County Marriage Counseling
Bergen County Marriage Counseling offers various types of couples therapy, including Imago and The Gottman Method. I support couples, from improving communication to conflict resolution to infidelity and betrayal to how to increase intimacy. I have 20+ years of experience specializing in assisting couples. I can provide a free 15-minute consultation to discuss your needs and explain my process.